
When I wrote my last blog post, Purposefulness in a World at War, I found myself holding a quiet but hopeful assumption. That the world, fractured as it is, would eventually move towards something recognisable as post‑war. That there would be a settling, an aftermath, a time for rebuilding and reflection.
Yet, as weeks have turned into months, that assumption feels increasingly naïve.
What we seem to be living through is not a temporary disturbance between periods of stability, but the emergence of a new normal: sustained uncertainty. Wars without clear endings, economic volatility that refuses to stabilise, climate disruptions that defy prediction, technological acceleration that outpaces ethical reflection, and social divisions that seem to harden rather than heal.
Uncertainty is no longer an interruption to normal life. It is normal life.
This raises a far more demanding question than the one I posed earlier:
How do we remain purposeful when uncertainty is not a phase to be endured, but a condition to be lived with?
Read more: Staying Purposeful When Uncertainty Becomes NormalUncertainty has a way of unsettling us at every level. Internally, it erodes our sense of control and predictability. In families, it shows up as anxiety about safety, finances, education, and the future our children will inherit. In teams and organisations, it creates hesitation, rushed decisions, or a retreat into short‑termism. At national and global levels, it fuels polarisation, protectionism, and fear‑based leadership.
The most common response to prolonged uncertainty is a narrowing of focus. We reduce time horizons. We cling to familiar identities. We pursue certainty through rigid plans, strongman narratives, or simplistic answers to complex problems. In doing so, we confuse control with purpose.
Purposefulness, however, does not require certainty. In fact, it has always been most needed in its absence.
A purposefulness approach asks us to shift from predicting the future to orienting ourselves within it. Purpose is not a forecast. It is a compass. It does not eliminate ambiguity, but it provides coherence amid ambiguity. It answers not “What will happen?” but “How will I choose to be, regardless of what happens?”
At the level of the self, staying purposeful in uncertainty begins with inner stability. Not emotional suppression or forced optimism, but groundedness. The capacity to sit with not knowing, without becoming reactive or paralysed. Purposeful self‑leadership asks us to continuously return to our values, our sense of meaning, and our responsibility for how we show up, even when outcomes are unclear.
In families, purposefulness becomes a container for reassurance and realism. It allows us to acknowledge uncertainty honestly without transmitting fear as a legacy. Purposeful families do not pretend everything will be fine; they cultivate trust, adaptability, and shared values that can carry them through whatever unfolds.
Within teams and organisations, purposefulness offers an alternative to panic‑driven decision‑making. When the future is unclear, people look not for perfect plans but for leaders who are steady, transparent, and values‑anchored. Purpose‑led organisations make decisions that protect dignity, sustain trust, and preserve long‑term integrity, even when short‑term sacrifices are unavoidable.
At the level of nations, uncertainty tests the moral maturity of leadership. Purposefulness here calls for resisting the seductive simplicity of fear‑based rhetoric. It requires leaders who can hold complexity, prioritise human wellbeing over political expediency, and recognise that durable security cannot be built on perpetual antagonism.
And finally, at the level of the world, purposefulness demands a widening of our moral horizon. Global uncertainty exposes our interdependence. No nation, ideology, or economy exists in isolation anymore. Purpose, if it is to be anything more than a justification for domination, must orient us towards collective survival, shared stewardship, and a future that remains viable for generations yet to come.
Perhaps the deepest shift required of us is this: moving from waiting for uncertainty to end, to learning how to live purposefully within it.
Purposefulness does not promise peace of circumstances. It offers peace of alignment. It does not eliminate fear, but it prevents fear from becoming the primary driver of our decisions. It keeps us human when pressures push us towards fragmentation.
If uncertainty is indeed the new normal, then the question is no longer whether we can control the world around us.
It is whether we can remain coherent, compassionate, and responsible within it.
In times like these, purpose is not a luxury. It is a necessity.















































































Reflection Guide
A picture that speak of the pride and gratitude for a father. This is my father Stephen Richard Francis De Silva addressing a gathering of 500 plus buisness leaders of Sri Lanka after being presented the first copy of my first book in 2003. My mother Carmen Cordillia Maureen De Silva, who is a tower of strength for him and our family stands by during this beautiful moment as I look at my fathers performance with pride and gratitude. I pay tribute to him on his 16th death anniversary on the 5th of July.




After having arrived in Dhaka with a packed schedule of coaching, facilitation and consulting assignments for multiple clients on the 14th of March, I suddenly found myself having to make some decisions on how best to respond to the universe who decided that we need to change the way we operate.



























I have learnt that we keep discovering our higher purpose as we live life once we discover the notion of purpose and is conscious of its existence. This had got me in to the habit of reflecting, reviewing, refreshing and re-writing my purpose every month.




































Let me use the words of the ‘Cookie Thief’ poem by Valerie Cox, I recite at trainings and the ‘ladder of inference’ developed by Coghlan & Brannick (2014, p.31) to attempt to figure out why we have misunderstandings. I will interrupt the poem and use the seven steps of the ‘ladder of inference’ model during the interludes in this attempt.

Have you ever thought about how you know what you know? When this question was first asked from me, the answers that came to my mind was; from books, from parents, from teachers, from the learned. But when confronted with the next question, so do you believe that all that you know was true, I felt yes, it must be true, if not these will not be thought to me by those who I respect as learned, honest and well-meaning. But when I thought deeper, I felt that what is true to them, does not have to be true to me, because they come from different backgrounds, eras, conditions, cultures, religion, and would be driven by different purposes etc. Therefore for us to claim that we know what we know requires a kind of self-validation. John Heron provides a theoretical framework that helps make sense of the way we know. He names it extended epistemology, which has four interwoven ways of knowing (Heron 1992, 1999): 



We are one of seven billion people in this world and each one of us sees the world from our own paradigm. This short blog post will examine the dangers of getting imprisoned in a paradigm and the benefits of becoming a prism as prisons are restricting and prisms are reflecting.




We all look forward to the New Year and celebrate it in different ways. There are those who clean up and pain their houses to give a new beginning. There are those who wear new cloths as the New Year dawns. There are those who go to a place of worship and take part in religious celebrations to usher in the New Year. There are those who eat, drink and dance at hotels, home or parks to usher in the New Year. There are those who stay at home and do traditional rituals such as boiling a pot of milk for good luck. There are those who do not do any of these or sometimes don’t even know it’s a dawn of a New Year. Whichever group you belong to, it is interesting to reflect on the deeper change that happens in you during the transition in to the New Year.
Christmas is here again. Let me wish each and everyone of my network a merry Christmas.
We may have heard this word tons of times from our childhood. You are wrong! That’s the wrong answer! You have wronged me! that’s the wrong way to do it! I have many times wondered about the meaning of this word. What impact does this word have on our lives? What impact does this word have on our relationships?












































New years every year brings so much hope to so many people. This is the time we think of giving up bad habits and making a fresh start. Most people take a fresh step with a good intention, only to find themselves slipping back to their old habits very quickly.

