How to use messages from our subconscious mind to live a purposeful life? – Purpose of Living – Part 33

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The question for today’s blog post is; How can we use messages from our sub-conscious mind to live more purposefully? We have been exploring the notion of purpose and purposeful living over the past 33 posts and hence I assume the notion is clear to you. Therefore, let’s directly move on to exploring the sub-conscious mind and how we can use it to live purposefully.

The idea of deeper levels of information processing was developed and extensively studied by famous Austrian psychologist Sigmund Freud (1856 – 1939). According to him, the mind could be divided into conscious, subconscious and unconscious levels. The Conscious Mind – defines all thoughts and actions within our awareness. For example, the beauty and pleasance of the smell of a red tulip. The Unconscious Mind– defines all past events and memories, inaccessible to us no matter how hard we try to remember to bring things up. For example, the first time you had ice cream, or how it felt to be able to speak for the first time. The Subconscious Mind defines all reactions and automatic actions we can become aware of if we think about them. For example, our ability to ride a bicycle: once we get skilled we stop thinking about balancing, when to pedal, when to break, when to speed up, when to slow down, when to bend etc., but when we think about it later, we become aware about all the action we took.

My experience is that the subconscious knows what’s right and what’s wrong and it tries to guide me by communicating through non-voluntary signals. When I make a decision sometimes I feel comfortable about it and sometimes I feel unconformable. This comfort or discomfort to me is a signal from my subconscious to help me make the most appropriate decision. When I take some action, I sometimes feel good about it and sometimes feel bad about it. This feeling to me is a signal from the subconscious. Sometimes when I leave home I have a feeling that tells me I have forgotten to take something that I was planning to take. I can’t consciously figure out what it is. However later during the day I realize what I had forgotten to take. I also find that dreams, headaches, forgetfulness, irritation etc. are subconscious feelings.

Let’s now examine how we can use messages from our subconscious mind to live a purposeful life. I see the possibilities in being guided by the subconscious in finding a glimpse of our purpose, attempting to live purposefully and getting more clarity about our purpose. We explored how to find a Glimpse of our Purpose and how to live purposefully in this series earlier (please click on the links to explore, engage and refresh). Finding a glimpse of the purpose requires reflecting on some questions.
Reflecting on the questions; ‘what makes me feel most alive?’, requires your subconscious to give you that feeling of being alive to know that such activities makes you feel joyous. Reflecting on the questions; ‘what are/were my struggles?’, requires your subconscious to give you that feeling of pain and discomfort for you to know that such activities were struggles that prepared you to serve a higher purpose. When reflecting on the questions; ‘what concerns me about my world?’, requires your subconscious to give you that feeling of concerns to know that such issues matter to you.

After having reflected on these questions, when attempting to articulate the beginnings of a purpose, that consists of the ‘why of my life’, ‘Noble values for purposeful living’ and ‘what will I say yes to’, might present you with many options. When reflecting on the options, the subconscious helps inform you by making you feel good about some options and not so good about some of the other options. Sometimes if you go to sleep with each of the options in mind over several days, the option you had in mind on the day you slept well might be the best option, although it might not be the most rational. This is because the subconscious can analyse each option using millions of pieces of information inside and outside the brain, that the conscious mind is not capable of doing.

After having formulated the glimpse of a purpose, attempting to live it requires making choices in the way we live spiritually, mentally, emotionally, relationally, physically, financially, ecologically, societally and temporally. When such choices are contemplated, the sub-conscious informs us of what might be the best choice through the same signals discussed in the earlier paragraph. While listening to the subconscious sounds counter-logical, it is best to experiment being guided by the subconscious with small choices and decisions, and once you become more conformable with its accuracy and usefulness you could move on to bigger, more risky decisions and choices.

My blog posts of the last eight months addressed the impact of violence, religion, politics, sports, professions, stress and releasing on the lives of people and how to respond from the frame of purposefulness. We continue to explore purposefulness, this time in relation to the ‘subconscious’.

I hope this short blog post inspires you to find ways of making sense and dealing with experiences and struggles you encounter trying to live purposefully.

I wish you purposeful living!

Purposeful Living through Releasing – Purpose of Living – Part 32

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After having been a student and teacher of how to master ourselves by living a purposeful life and programming our own mind, for the past twenty five years and believing that this is one of the best methods available to help us live a happy and successful life, finding ‘Releasing’ (or did Releasing find me?) has opened possibilities I thought never existed.

Sometimes opportunities find us when we welcome them. And perhaps it was one such serendipitous moment when my guru Omar Khan, who helped me find purpose and live purposefully about 25-years ago, offered to conduct the ‘Releasing Discovery’ workshop. Releasing, also presented under the rubric of The Sedona Method (same methodology with a different presenter), has been hailed by people like Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen, was showcased in the best-selling The Secret, has been the subject of numerous testimonials from leading authorities like Dr. David Hawkins, Michael Singer and others in terms of being an exemplar of “inside out” breakthroughs. Continue reading “Purposeful Living through Releasing – Purpose of Living – Part 32”

Stress & Life Purpose – Purpose of Living – Part 31

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Managing stress was at the center of a coaching discussion I had with a CEO a few months ago. He was very successful and his success is attributed to the hard work he put in to his job. He gave his job first place and was willing to work late in to the evening, work on weekends and travel extensively for the success of his organization.

He had not adequately developed his team to take over responsibilities as he preferred to get things done on his own. While this worked for a while, it was taking its toll when the organization grew to a larger scale. He was also having issues at home as his two teenage sons had lost interest in studies and sports and preferred a lazy life engrossed in video’s and games using the expensive devises the father had purchased for them. He wife had given up trying to get him involved in family matters and was trying to manage on her own, but the absence of the father’s love, guidance and attention could not be compensated adequately by her. This is a source of stress when he returns home.

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Living our Dream Purposefully – Purpose of Living – Part 30

NAFLIA 2019 Presentation (Click here to Download Powerpoint)

NAFLIA 2019 Presentation (Click here to download PDF)

Click on the above link for the presentation related to the keynote speech to be given by me at NAFLIA 2019. Conference participants are invited to download the presentation and use it to follow the keynote speech. 

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This blog is written in service of life-Insurance Advisors in Sri Lanka, specifically the members attending NAFLIA 2019, the National Forum for Life Insurance Advisors scheduled for the 2ndof September. My attempt is to articulate the key messages of the keynote speech that will be delivered by me.  

As I was reflecting on the topic for the annual conference, ‘Assuring Tomorrow Dream Today’. The questions that come up are, what is the action we need to take today to assure our dream of tomorrow? How do we know the action we choose to take today will assure our dream tomorrow? I realised this is a very complex question and that there is no standard answer to this as the action to be taken depends of the world each person lives in. What I mean by the ‘world’ is the immediate world of each person starting with him/herself, family, friends, organisations they belong to, organisations and people they interact with etc. The answer is personal. Continue reading “Living our Dream Purposefully – Purpose of Living – Part 30”

Is Selling a Purposeful Profession – Purpose of Living – Part 29

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I was at a cocktail party listening to an interesting conversation between two other guests who were in the same huddle as me.

Person A: What do you do?

Person B: I sell financial services.

Person A: What do you really want to do?

Person B: I want to be banker.

I asked A why he asked that question, and B why he responded that way. A said, “isn’t selling a profession that is not respected?” B said “yes”, it is so difficult to sell because customers look at him with suspicion. In my three decades of being in business and playing the roles of seller, buyer, leader, trainer, consultant and coach of sales professionals, I have encountered this attitude towards sales on many occasions.

However, my personal attitude towards sales is the opposite. As I reflect on the questions – how is it that people have developed this attitude towards sales, and what would be the best way to help people to look differently at sales? – the notion of purposefulness continues to come to my mind. Perhaps if I can find out if ‘sales’ is a purposeful profession, then it might help me to engage with people who have diverse viewpoints regarding this question.

Answering the above question requires understanding what is a purposeful profession. While I have attempted to answer this question in the earlier blog posts regarding purposefulness, there is no definite answer due to the complexity of this question. I believe that a purposeful profession needs to be of service to the flourishing of life and supported by noble values. Let’s examine these two aspects in relation to the sales profession. Continue reading “Is Selling a Purposeful Profession – Purpose of Living – Part 29”

Impact of religion and politics on personal purpose? – Purpose of Living – Part 27

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My blog post of last month addressed the notion of purpose of violence in the aftermath of the Easter Sunday bomb attacks in Sri Lanka. We saw the involvement of religion and politics in the aftermath of the incident, over the past month. The intention of this blog post is to help us to understand how religion and politics positively and negatively impacted the lives of people.

Since I am not an intelligence, theological or political science expert to make judgements about what happened, and who was responsible for what happened, I request you not to take the assumptions I make in this post as truth. I am far away from the inner circles to know the truth and I am basing this blog post on what I have heard from trusted personalities such as the Cardinal of Sri Lanka, the Commander of the Army, and a retired intelligence experts known to me personally.

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Attacking the Innocent – What is the Purpose? – Purpose of Living – Part 26

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It was Easter Sunday (21 April 2019). I was in my flat in Dhaka, attending to some important business matters when I got a message that a bomb had gone off at St Anthony’s Church in Kochchikade, Colombo. Having not heard of bombings and terrorist violence for the past ten years, since the end of the civil war in Sri Lanka, I hoped it was a hand grenade thrown by a business rival involved in unscrupulous business, with no injuries; these were the rare occurrences we heard of over the past ten years. Then the news started pouring in with photos and videos of simultaneous bomb attacks in two other churches and luxury hotels as well. My immediate concern was for my family who would have been at an Easter Mass at the same time. After calling and ensuring they were safe, my thoughts went out to the victims. I started hearing news of people known to me or families of people known to me having lost their lives or being injured, among the 253 souls that departed and 500 plus injured. I had visited St Anthony’s Church many times and I could picture the carnage as if I was there. It is considered a miraculous church and people from all religions visit to reflect on their challenges and ask help from St Anthony to resolve them.

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