Decluttering My Life this Pandemic

My Decluttered Home Work Space

Many things have been written about the impact of the pandemic, positive and negative. I have reflected on the pandemic from various view points in my blog posts over the past 10 months. I choose to share one aspect of the pandemic, decluttering my life.

I had developed the habit of filling all documents such as bank statements, a habit I learnt from my father. This was way before personal computers entered our life. Once computers arrived I was used to storing all files I created and received as well as emails that I thought would be required I the future. This habit started when I started working in 1982 and has been going on for the past 38 years. I realised my house, files, laptop as well as external connections were continuously getting filled up. Multiple computer crashes over the past few years has also resulted in my files getting scattered, lost, getting stored in to external drives etc. When we had decided to work from home 14 years ago many files, documents and books were shifted to my home office. Due to my extensive overseas travel that occurred about twice a month, I had not paid too much attention to the cluttering taking place. Perhaps my busy-ness prevented me from noticing the clutter and doing much about it.

After having got trapped in Bangladesh due to airport closures I finally arrived in Sri Lanka on the 24th of May and got home on the 8th of June after two weeks of quarantine. Meanwhile I had got busy doing online work and the need for decluttering did not occur. However things took a sharp turn when some of our windows that were open during a severe storm, broke for the pressure. We had a choice of repairing the broken windows or replacing all windows with French windows to let in more light and air. The transformation was amazing. My life too felt lighter and brighter. That made me realise the need for decluttering.

This was around September 2020 and since then it has been one clean up after the other. Throwing old cloths, furniture, kitchen utensils, files, books, machines, etc .etc. Every time we clear some thing there was more space. I re-modelled my home office space by bringing together all my work related items such as books, file and equipment that were essential. Furniture and walls got painted. By Christmas the entire house was so spacious, decluttered, bright, airy and my life felt the same. I had also de-cluttered my finances by doing some financial planning and got my customer service processes organised. This has resulted in almost no anxiety, high productivity and feeling alive as I worked at home and spent time with family. From the beginning of January I started focusing on my computer files and organised everything, removing duplicates, deleting loads of unnecessary files and putting old files that may be need in cloud storage.

As I write this I feel a feeling of total clarity, lightens, and aliveness. I plan to continue decluttering as things arise so that it becomes an integral part of life and I believe that will continue to give me space, clarity and energy to do the purposeful work I am called upon to do.

Wish you a decluttered life and purposeful living.

If you want God to laugh, tell her your plans.

This years Christmas present from my eldest daughter – a symbol of abundance & purpose

My new year’s message last year was ‘I wish you a new year and new decade overflowing with abundance & purposefulness’. Having gone through perhaps the most ‘interesting’ year of our life, I wonder if this wish had an impact or not. I suppose it depends on how we look at 2020. While many of us had challenges in our jobs, businesses, finances, relationships and health, it is important to reflect on and find the hidden gifts. 

With regard to our jobs, did we find more creativity and productivity, having to work from home? Did we end up finding a better job if we were made redundant. Or did we find better ways of using our time and talent if we were not re-employed? 

With regard to our business, did we find creative new products and markets, did we find more efficient ways of working and communicating? Did we right size and re-allocate responsibilities?

With regard to financials, did we find better and bigger sources of income? Did we prioritise expenses and found we were living better at a lesser cost? Did we find ways of re-deploying our assets and re-negotiating our liabilities? 

With regard to our relationships, did we find more time with close family, did we connect with more people using virtual methods, did our limited contact result in limited conflicts? Did we learn to trust and respect better?  

With regard to our health, did we become more conscious about our conduct in society so that we do not get and give germs to each other. Did we change our sleeping, resting, eating and exercising habits to strengthen our immune system? Did we find better ways of caring for ourselves and found home remedies to reduce the visit to the doctors?

My reflection on the above questions shows me that my life was filled with abundance and purposefulness as per my New Year’s wish last year and I hope it was the same for you. If not, we can help manifest such abundance and purposefulness through the power of intention and love. 

Another question that comes up is ‘should we plan for 2021, given that our plans were totally irrelevant to what the universe had in store for us’. I remember something mentioned by my guru ‘Omar S Khan’ at the ‘Mastery of Self – Playshop’ 25 years ago. If you want God to laugh, tell her your plans. If you want God to laugh out loud, tell her your business plans. 

This calls for a different way of planning, what I call ‘Loving Intentions’. It starts with Creating powerful intention is a method of informing the universe. This will result in appropriate opportunities coming towards you while your subconscious mind starts to liberate resources required to respond to such opportunities.

Given below are a few questions that will help create the intention. 

  1. What would be the intentions that will be most aligned with my purpose?

(in case you have not articulated a purpose yet, click here to learn how to do it

  • What would the intentions you and your family, friends and team be most proud of?
  • What would be the intentions that would add most value to your family, friends and team? 
  • What were the biggest learnings about life from 2020?

Reflect on these questions alone, as a family or as a team. This exercise will help create positive intentions. Thereafter inform the universe of this intention by writing it down or presenting it using unique artful forms of yourself, family or team. 

Once the universe if informed of the intention it is important for you to take the first step towards making the intentions real. Once the first step is taken, see how the universe responds to it and then decide on the next step. Be in this process and enjoy the best year of your life. 

I wish you a year filled with love and abundance.  

Letting Life Flow

Image Credits: Inhabitat.com

How time flies. We are upon the final month of 2020.  

This year we learnt that plans are nice to have but our plans are so insignificant when compared to the plans of the higher powers; be it God, Universal energy system or nature. 

We learn that we need to deeply understand and respond to the plans of the higher power so that we synchronise, rather than fight those plans, causing anxiety, stress and a multitude of negative behaviours. 

I decided to take a break from social media, blogging, tweeting and newsletter writing in October (2020) and I decided to have only a weekly blog post and very limited time in social media from November. I allowed beingness to guide me and I ended up writing only 2 blog posts for the month. As I started writing my monthly newsletter, I felt that this message needs to be shared with my blog and social media follows and therefore this will become the third blog post for the month (as against a daily blog post during the past 8 months. I believe this is an example of allowing the higher powers to guide me, rather than trying to act as per what I feel is ‘right’. 

The month of November has been quite relaxed as well as productive in both the personal and professional aspects. On the personal side I enjoyed engaging in improvements, in my relationships, home, health, personal finance and studies. On the professional side I enjoyed delivering transformational process for clients which added value to them, doing some free sessions to help those who need them, streamline work processes and developed business for the future. I feel fulfilled reflecting back on the month gone by. 

These reflections make me realise the importance of holding my plans lightly with willingness to understand the need to adjust them so that I synchronise them with the plans of the higher powers.

I wish you a happy and successful completion of 2020.

Let the Daffodils Heal You

Daffodils – William Wordsworth

As you listen to this poem, reflect on the wonders of nature and let it heal your pensive mood or broken heart.

I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud
I wandered lonely as a cloud
That floats on high o’er vales and hills,
When all at once I saw a crowd,
A host, of golden daffodils;
Beside the lake, beneath the trees,
Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.

Continuous as the stars that shine
And twinkle on the milky way,
They stretched in never-ending line
Along the margin of a bay:
Ten thousand saw I at a glance,
Tossing their heads in sprightly dance.

The waves beside them danced; but they
Out-did the sparkling waves in glee:
A poet could not but be gay,
In such a jocund company:
I gazed—and gazed—but little thought
What wealth the show to me had brought:

For oft, when on my couch I lie
In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude;
And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the daffodils.

About the poet — William Wordsworth (1770 — 1850) was a major English Romantic poet who helped to launch the Romantic Age in English literature. He was born in Cockermouth, England. His poetry was mainly focused on the nature, children, the poor, common people. Wordsworth was Britain’s Poet Laureate from 1843 until his death in 1850.

Simple and Unassuming life for a better body and mind.

Eric Berne’s – Transactional Analysis presented.

As you read this quote by Sir Albert Einstein, reflect on a baby step you can take to go towards a simple and unassuming manner of life that has potential to have a positive impact on body and mind.

The Pandemic & Money

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In the last 5 blog posts in the ‘purpose quest series’, we explored how the pandemic impacted five important pillars for purposeful living; spiritual, mental, emotional, relational and health. Let’s explore the sixth pillar, the financial aspect in this blog post. The financial pillar consist of four aspects earnings, expenses, savings and investments. As in the past five blog posts let me describe my personal experience during the pandemic. 

With the announcement of the pandemic, cases starting to rise and lockdowns getting implemented, many of my clients decided to postpone sessions that were scheduled. In addition some of the industries my clients were in, specially the apparel industry was having orders getting cancelled, resulting in impending reduction in their cashflows. In the past too, some companies first eliminated people development budgets when such challenges arose. All this made me realise that I need to focus on planning my finances. Continue reading “The Pandemic & Money”

The Master of My Fate, Captain of my Soul.

Invictus – The Poem

As you listen to the words of this poem, closed eyed or watching the visuals of the visit of the South African Rugby team to Nelson Mandela’s  prison (scene from the movie Invictus), reflect on your biggest struggle and how that helped you to realise that you are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul.

Welcome Havingness

havingness
Image Credits: Pulasthi Palansuriya

A picture that speaks of the notion of ‘Havingness’. The lady’s white dress and serene face show that she is totally in peace with herself. The background shows the abundance of the universe. The open arms depicts being open to welcome the the gifts of the universe. Havingness is an energy space we are capable of creating based on the notion and methods of ‘Releasing’ introduce by Lester Levenson.

Pictures that speak

 

Healing for the Healers

IDH Session 15 June 2020

What else can be more gratifying and humbling than to be trusted by the Ministry of Health of Sri Lanka with the nerve center fighting covid-19 in Sri Lanka, the Infectious Disease Hospital, popularly known as IDH. The team of 300 medical professionals led by the Director of Quarantine of the Ministry of Health – Sri Lanka, Dr. Mahendra Arnold benefited by this initiative.

These héros and heroines have contributed to the machinery of the Sri Lanka government that has eradicated the community spread of covid-19. The statistics speak for the amazing work they have done with less than 2000 infection in the Island, no community spread for 7 weeks,  74% recovery rate, 0.5%  mortality and less than 1% infection rate (only from quarantined overseas returnees and a spread in a navel base that is now under control).

These healers were gifted with psychological first aid based on Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Releasing to help them learn how to heal from inside out.  The workshops organised by Intercontinental Institute of Human Resource Management (IIHRM) was delivered by the Sensei International Team of Omar S Khan, Tanzi Usoof, Prarthana Liyanage & Myself. We salute all the companies who supported this initiative.

We hope and pray that these healers will get mentally stronger to continue their noble cause.

Pictures that speak

Releasing Anxiety

anxity releasing
Image credits: lightworkerhealing.com

Last week I wrote about how we can become an Abundance Magnet as a part of the weekly ‘Purpose Quest’ series I commenced two weeks ago. Today I focus on an aspect of the story that I wrote last week, releasing anxiety’. 

Anxiety was arising due to my  inability to return home  to Sri Lanka and impending drop in revenue when the reality of the pandemic was getting clearer.  This blog post is dedicated to illustrate how I released such emotions using Releasing Techniques that I was learning and teaching since October last year.

When we have an emotion, we either repress it, express it or escape from it. Initially I repressed it by telling myself that this will pass soon, flights will be arranged for me to return and clients will continue their work. My sleep that night was not comfortable as something from within was nudging me to take this more seriously.

So how did I respond to this call?

Continue reading “Releasing Anxiety”