Take a JUMP in to your purpose – Purpose of Living – Part 36

Jump-blogI have learnt that we keep discovering our higher purpose as we live life once we discover the notion of purpose and is conscious of its existence. This had got me in to the habit of reflecting, reviewing, refreshing and re-writing my purpose every month.
The first part of my current purpose statement is;

Inspire others to live a purposeful life based on their own evolving beliefs, values and methods.

This is based on my discovery of how my beliefs, values and methods evolved during my first-person inquiry and my discovery of how different people have different beliefs, values and methods that evolve as they attempt to live purposefully, during my second-person inquiry. First- and second-person inquiry are methods of action research that I adopt in my doctoral research into the notion of ‘purposeful living’.

I would like to focus on the aspect of ‘evolving methods’ in this article. I have personally experienced methods such as prayer, meditation, mental tools from NLP & TA, community building, Yoga, and Releasing that has helped me to live a purposeful life. The methods we choose are guided by our beliefs and values. I have discovered that attempting to live a purposeful life leaves me open to inspiration and I keep finding new values, beliefs and methods (or do these methods find me?), which I sometimes adopt. I also realise that my beliefs, values and methods keep evolving and each of these aspects impact the other aspects during the journey of life and these aspects are an evolving fusion of my experiences.

A new method I discovered last month was the JUMP movement and I was fortunate to learn this directly from the founder Ineke Hurkmans thanks to the CKH Network who made it possible for her to visit Bangladesh. I found that the JUMP movement is also a useful method in living a purposeful life. It is a simple seven step process that makes a movement in your consciousness, energy, beliefs, values, success and happiness within you. It is a simple conversation method that can be done between two people or a small group and could be also considered a coaching technique.

The first step is to promise three things to the members of the group; to own express opinions to others, support each other and confidentiality. These are important human values and since noble values are a part of a purpose statement, this step help participants practice these important values and perhaps adopt them for their own life purpose.

The second step is to celebrate personal success by sharing success in the group and receiving applause. The process of finding purpose begins with reflecting on what makes us joyous to discover inner resources that we must develop for the service of the world. Similarly, this second step in the JUMP movement helps in discovering, valuing and celebrating our inner resources.

The third step is to share where you are right now using an anecdote or key words and receive a compliment (without hidden advise) from the other group members. The process of finding purpose requires accepting who we are, including the struggles we are grappling with, with the intention of using the experience to be of service to the world. Therefore, practicing the third step regularly helps make sense of some aspects of our life purpose.

The fourth step is to state, ‘where do you want to go’, loud and clear without any comments, feedback and advise from the group. In the process of finding purpose we encourage you to let your heart guide you without any limitations because the conscious mind may be thinking with limitation, doubts, prejudices etc. Therefore, this step helps silence the negative and allow real potential to be articulated.

The fifth step is to give yourself tips and advice using a creative technique. This step could feed ideas about the daily steps to be taken to build ourselves in the nine aspects of lifewith the intention of being purposeful. These nine aspects are; spiritual, mental, emotional, relational, physical, financial, ecological, societal and temporal. Those who practice the JUMP process would be regularly reflecting on improving themselves in some of these areas to be fit for purpose.

The sixth step is to decide on the next step you will take and is applauded by the team. The decision can be something you will start doing or stop doing. Living purposefully requires deciding every morning at least three baby steps you would take in any of the nine aspects of life that was discussed in the earlier paragraph and celebrating successes end of each day. Those who practice the JUMP process regularly would be fertile with ideas and courageous to implement those ideas.

The seventh step is gratitude; to say to the larger group what you are grateful for. Continuing this practice helps develop an attitude of gratitude. This helps purposeful living, which is about being grateful for what we have, informing the universe how we would like to serve and saying ‘yes’ to opportunities that are presented.

The lessons I take from this exploration is that there are varied methods available to help people live a better life. All these approaches have some value and if we are open to possibilities we will find the approach or a fusion of methods that best suits each of us. And such methods are bound to evolve with our ongoing experiences. Therefore it is important to be open to change so that we can be in sync with the evolution of the universe.

My blog posts of the last 11 months addressed the impact of violence, religion, politics, sports, professions, stress, releasing, the subconscious, love and family on the lives of people and how to respond from the frame of purposefulness. We continue to explore purposefulness, this time in relation to new methods and approaches that we encounter.
I hope this short blog post inspires you to find ways of making sense and dealing with experiences and struggles you encounter trying to live purposefully.

I wish you purposeful living!

The Purpose of Family – Purpose of Living – Part 35

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It was not an easy decision to take 10 days off my busy schedule and travel to the other side of the planet to be with my sister for one of her milestone birthdays. It was not easy because I had to allocate time to respond to time demanded by my clients and team.

However, I made the decision, went through many challenges getting the visa because my busy travel schedule provided me only a small window to obtain the visa, worked long hours to clear as much work as possible so that I can be with the families of my sister and brothers during this time.

I am so glad that I made this decision to see the joy in my sisters face when I arrived at her door at 7am a few days ago, with my brother who picked me up from the Toronto Airport. I am so glad that I can spend time with the families of my brother and sister, catching up on their lives, sharing nostalgic moments, visiting interesting places, and spending quality time together.

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Stress & Life Purpose – Purpose of Living – Part 31

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Managing stress was at the center of a coaching discussion I had with a CEO a few months ago. He was very successful and his success is attributed to the hard work he put in to his job. He gave his job first place and was willing to work late in to the evening, work on weekends and travel extensively for the success of his organization.

He had not adequately developed his team to take over responsibilities as he preferred to get things done on his own. While this worked for a while, it was taking its toll when the organization grew to a larger scale. He was also having issues at home as his two teenage sons had lost interest in studies and sports and preferred a lazy life engrossed in video’s and games using the expensive devises the father had purchased for them. He wife had given up trying to get him involved in family matters and was trying to manage on her own, but the absence of the father’s love, guidance and attention could not be compensated adequately by her. This is a source of stress when he returns home.

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Living our Dream Purposefully – Purpose of Living – Part 30

NAFLIA 2019 Presentation (Click here to Download Powerpoint)

NAFLIA 2019 Presentation (Click here to download PDF)

Click on the above link for the presentation related to the keynote speech to be given by me at NAFLIA 2019. Conference participants are invited to download the presentation and use it to follow the keynote speech. 

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This blog is written in service of life-Insurance Advisors in Sri Lanka, specifically the members attending NAFLIA 2019, the National Forum for Life Insurance Advisors scheduled for the 2ndof September. My attempt is to articulate the key messages of the keynote speech that will be delivered by me.  

As I was reflecting on the topic for the annual conference, ‘Assuring Tomorrow Dream Today’. The questions that come up are, what is the action we need to take today to assure our dream of tomorrow? How do we know the action we choose to take today will assure our dream tomorrow? I realised this is a very complex question and that there is no standard answer to this as the action to be taken depends of the world each person lives in. What I mean by the ‘world’ is the immediate world of each person starting with him/herself, family, friends, organisations they belong to, organisations and people they interact with etc. The answer is personal. Continue reading “Living our Dream Purposefully – Purpose of Living – Part 30”

Is Selling a Purposeful Profession – Purpose of Living – Part 29

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I was at a cocktail party listening to an interesting conversation between two other guests who were in the same huddle as me.

Person A: What do you do?

Person B: I sell financial services.

Person A: What do you really want to do?

Person B: I want to be banker.

I asked A why he asked that question, and B why he responded that way. A said, “isn’t selling a profession that is not respected?” B said “yes”, it is so difficult to sell because customers look at him with suspicion. In my three decades of being in business and playing the roles of seller, buyer, leader, trainer, consultant and coach of sales professionals, I have encountered this attitude towards sales on many occasions.

However, my personal attitude towards sales is the opposite. As I reflect on the questions – how is it that people have developed this attitude towards sales, and what would be the best way to help people to look differently at sales? – the notion of purposefulness continues to come to my mind. Perhaps if I can find out if ‘sales’ is a purposeful profession, then it might help me to engage with people who have diverse viewpoints regarding this question.

Answering the above question requires understanding what is a purposeful profession. While I have attempted to answer this question in the earlier blog posts regarding purposefulness, there is no definite answer due to the complexity of this question. I believe that a purposeful profession needs to be of service to the flourishing of life and supported by noble values. Let’s examine these two aspects in relation to the sales profession. Continue reading “Is Selling a Purposeful Profession – Purpose of Living – Part 29”

When purposes clash at the workplace – Purpose of Living – Part 25

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Have you ever faced a situation where you have a purpose that clashes with the purpose of a colleague, such as your boss, peer or a direct report? Has this situation led to misunderstandings, arguments, anger, click formation, politicking and even violence that starts affecting the business of the organisation? How did you handle the situation? Has it made you become disgruntled about the notion of ‘purposeful living’ and even resulted in discouraging team members in living purposefully. I will try to address this issue in this blog post from the experience I have had in dealing with such situations as a team member from within the organisation or as a consultant and coach from outside the organisation. Continue reading “When purposes clash at the workplace – Purpose of Living – Part 25”

When Purposes Clash in Families – Purpose of Living – Part 24

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Have you ever had a situation where you have a purpose different to the purpose of a family member, such as a spouse, parent, sibling or child? Has this situation led to misunderstandings, arguments, anger, violence or estrangement? How did you handle the situation? Has it made you become disgruntled about the notion of ‘purposeful living’. I will try to address this issue in this blog post from the limited experience I have had in dealing with such situations.

Recently I had the opportunity of counselling a couple who were facing such a situation;  the husband is a successful chief executive of a company and the wife is a senior manager in a bank. They have two adorable children. The family is financially sound with means of passive income. The husband was very caring to the family and they were always happy. The wife had always been supportive of the husband, specially in the early days of their marriage when he was struggling to move up the corporate ladder, while caring for the children. Continue reading “When Purposes Clash in Families – Purpose of Living – Part 24”