Decluttering My Life this Pandemic

My Decluttered Home Work Space

Many things have been written about the impact of the pandemic, positive and negative. I have reflected on the pandemic from various view points in my blog posts over the past 10 months. I choose to share one aspect of the pandemic, decluttering my life.

I had developed the habit of filling all documents such as bank statements, a habit I learnt from my father. This was way before personal computers entered our life. Once computers arrived I was used to storing all files I created and received as well as emails that I thought would be required I the future. This habit started when I started working in 1982 and has been going on for the past 38 years. I realised my house, files, laptop as well as external connections were continuously getting filled up. Multiple computer crashes over the past few years has also resulted in my files getting scattered, lost, getting stored in to external drives etc. When we had decided to work from home 14 years ago many files, documents and books were shifted to my home office. Due to my extensive overseas travel that occurred about twice a month, I had not paid too much attention to the cluttering taking place. Perhaps my busy-ness prevented me from noticing the clutter and doing much about it.

After having got trapped in Bangladesh due to airport closures I finally arrived in Sri Lanka on the 24th of May and got home on the 8th of June after two weeks of quarantine. Meanwhile I had got busy doing online work and the need for decluttering did not occur. However things took a sharp turn when some of our windows that were open during a severe storm, broke for the pressure. We had a choice of repairing the broken windows or replacing all windows with French windows to let in more light and air. The transformation was amazing. My life too felt lighter and brighter. That made me realise the need for decluttering.

This was around September 2020 and since then it has been one clean up after the other. Throwing old cloths, furniture, kitchen utensils, files, books, machines, etc .etc. Every time we clear some thing there was more space. I re-modelled my home office space by bringing together all my work related items such as books, file and equipment that were essential. Furniture and walls got painted. By Christmas the entire house was so spacious, decluttered, bright, airy and my life felt the same. I had also de-cluttered my finances by doing some financial planning and got my customer service processes organised. This has resulted in almost no anxiety, high productivity and feeling alive as I worked at home and spent time with family. From the beginning of January I started focusing on my computer files and organised everything, removing duplicates, deleting loads of unnecessary files and putting old files that may be need in cloud storage.

As I write this I feel a feeling of total clarity, lightens, and aliveness. I plan to continue decluttering as things arise so that it becomes an integral part of life and I believe that will continue to give me space, clarity and energy to do the purposeful work I am called upon to do.

Wish you a decluttered life and purposeful living.

Just Be Open to Receive Love & Abundance this New Year

As my little New Year present to you, I am delighted to share with love and respect a beautiful reflection with reference to many beautiful insights from my guru Omar S Khan.

One of them from Great Expectations by Charles Dickens about the gratitude we show for the conditionality and vulnerability of our happiness. Another from the Pastor of St Bart’s New York who shows that it is not that we are looking for God, but God is looking for us and we need to be JUST be open to receive the grace. As you let this message speak to you in a unique way based on what you are open to, let it nourish your soul. For me the conditionality of happiness, being grateful for everything and the profound meaning of ‘JUST’ were soul nourishing.

Enjoy this beautiful audio message with your loved ones and your team and have a conversation about how this message spoke to each one of them. This would perhaps generate a insightful conversation that can serve you all individually or as a group.

May you be filled with love and abundance. Just accept it.

If you want God to laugh, tell her your plans.

This years Christmas present from my eldest daughter – a symbol of abundance & purpose

My new year’s message last year was ‘I wish you a new year and new decade overflowing with abundance & purposefulness’. Having gone through perhaps the most ‘interesting’ year of our life, I wonder if this wish had an impact or not. I suppose it depends on how we look at 2020. While many of us had challenges in our jobs, businesses, finances, relationships and health, it is important to reflect on and find the hidden gifts. 

With regard to our jobs, did we find more creativity and productivity, having to work from home? Did we end up finding a better job if we were made redundant. Or did we find better ways of using our time and talent if we were not re-employed? 

With regard to our business, did we find creative new products and markets, did we find more efficient ways of working and communicating? Did we right size and re-allocate responsibilities?

With regard to financials, did we find better and bigger sources of income? Did we prioritise expenses and found we were living better at a lesser cost? Did we find ways of re-deploying our assets and re-negotiating our liabilities? 

With regard to our relationships, did we find more time with close family, did we connect with more people using virtual methods, did our limited contact result in limited conflicts? Did we learn to trust and respect better?  

With regard to our health, did we become more conscious about our conduct in society so that we do not get and give germs to each other. Did we change our sleeping, resting, eating and exercising habits to strengthen our immune system? Did we find better ways of caring for ourselves and found home remedies to reduce the visit to the doctors?

My reflection on the above questions shows me that my life was filled with abundance and purposefulness as per my New Year’s wish last year and I hope it was the same for you. If not, we can help manifest such abundance and purposefulness through the power of intention and love. 

Another question that comes up is ‘should we plan for 2021, given that our plans were totally irrelevant to what the universe had in store for us’. I remember something mentioned by my guru ‘Omar S Khan’ at the ‘Mastery of Self – Playshop’ 25 years ago. If you want God to laugh, tell her your plans. If you want God to laugh out loud, tell her your business plans. 

This calls for a different way of planning, what I call ‘Loving Intentions’. It starts with Creating powerful intention is a method of informing the universe. This will result in appropriate opportunities coming towards you while your subconscious mind starts to liberate resources required to respond to such opportunities.

Given below are a few questions that will help create the intention. 

  1. What would be the intentions that will be most aligned with my purpose?

(in case you have not articulated a purpose yet, click here to learn how to do it

  • What would the intentions you and your family, friends and team be most proud of?
  • What would be the intentions that would add most value to your family, friends and team? 
  • What were the biggest learnings about life from 2020?

Reflect on these questions alone, as a family or as a team. This exercise will help create positive intentions. Thereafter inform the universe of this intention by writing it down or presenting it using unique artful forms of yourself, family or team. 

Once the universe if informed of the intention it is important for you to take the first step towards making the intentions real. Once the first step is taken, see how the universe responds to it and then decide on the next step. Be in this process and enjoy the best year of your life. 

I wish you a year filled with love and abundance.  

Let the Daffodils Heal You

Daffodils – William Wordsworth

As you listen to this poem, reflect on the wonders of nature and let it heal your pensive mood or broken heart.

I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud
I wandered lonely as a cloud
That floats on high o’er vales and hills,
When all at once I saw a crowd,
A host, of golden daffodils;
Beside the lake, beneath the trees,
Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.

Continuous as the stars that shine
And twinkle on the milky way,
They stretched in never-ending line
Along the margin of a bay:
Ten thousand saw I at a glance,
Tossing their heads in sprightly dance.

The waves beside them danced; but they
Out-did the sparkling waves in glee:
A poet could not but be gay,
In such a jocund company:
I gazed—and gazed—but little thought
What wealth the show to me had brought:

For oft, when on my couch I lie
In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude;
And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the daffodils.

About the poet — William Wordsworth (1770 — 1850) was a major English Romantic poet who helped to launch the Romantic Age in English literature. He was born in Cockermouth, England. His poetry was mainly focused on the nature, children, the poor, common people. Wordsworth was Britain’s Poet Laureate from 1843 until his death in 1850.

The Pandemic and Temporal Aspect of Purposefulness

Image Credit: Nationalpost.com

In the last 8 blog posts in the ‘purpose quest series’, we explored how the pandemic impacted eight important pillars for purposeful living; spiritual, mental, emotional, relational, physical (health), financial, environmental and societal. Let’s explore the ninth pillar, the ‘temporal’ aspect in this blog post. As in the past eight blog posts let me attempt to describe my personal experience during the pandemic. 

The word ‘Temporal’ has two broad applications; relating to worldly as opposed to spiritual affairs (secular) and relating to time. I use the word in relation to the use of time. The temporal aspect of purposeful relates to the use of limited time. The purposeful person attempts to utilise most of the time for purposeful activity, which requires letting go of non-purposeful activity.

The last eight weekly blog posts in the ‘purposeful quest’ series illustrated how my time was allocated to purposeful activity in spiritual, mental, emotional, relational, physical (health), financial, ecological and temporal areas. These activities took most of my waking time and there was rarely any time remaining for non-purposeful activity during the approximately 16 hours of waking time.

The sense I make from this reflection is that the pandemic gave me so much opportunities to be purposeful, that it left me with almost no time for non-purposeful activities. This way of life has kept me occupied in meaningful and energising activity, giving me inner success, happiness and peace. My purpose is to inspire others to live a purposeful life and I hope this series of blog posts will inspire you too to live a purposeful life and find Success happiness and peace.

It’s a Possibility, with Your Heart the Hunter, to find Peace and Happiness

It’s a possibility – John Denver

As you listen to this beautiful song reflect on how you can use your heart, the hunter to fight off hatred and help find peace and happiness in your little world, thereby creating ripples to make this world a better place.

Lyrics

For all of the times that you’ve wondered why
The world turned out this way
And all of the times that you’ve asked yourself
About the games that people play.

About the politics of hunger
And the politics of need,
How the politics of power
Seem to be the politics of greed.

For all of the times that you’ve struggled in an effort
To work your way back up stream,
And all of the times you’ve held on to it,
When most of us had lost the dream.

And for all of the ones who have walked with you,
By your side or way back home,
Maybe much more than any of us
You know that no one is really alone.

Because the heart is still a hunter,
It’s like a beacon in the night.
Though the heart is just a lover,
It’s never afraid to fight.

We are fighting for more than survival,
We are…

Finding Values to Live Life

Reflection Guide

Reflect on the values you were living by when you were happy and peaceful and what were the values in your life when you were unhappy and disturbed. What were the values you were living by when you made good decisions easily and what were your values when the decisions were wrong and difficult to make. Listing these can help you pick a few values for you to shape your life around.

Who Are You Being?

425nReflection Guide

Reflect on the quote by John Lennon and ask yourself, Who do or did you want to be? Who are you being? Are you pursuing happiness? Where and how do you find happiness? I hope these reflections will help you understand life better and find the higher purpose of life.

Quotes for Reflection

Welcome Havingness

havingness
Image Credits: Pulasthi Palansuriya

A picture that speaks of the notion of ‘Havingness’. The lady’s white dress and serene face show that she is totally in peace with herself. The background shows the abundance of the universe. The open arms depicts being open to welcome the the gifts of the universe. Havingness is an energy space we are capable of creating based on the notion and methods of ‘Releasing’ introduce by Lester Levenson.

Pictures that speak

 

The Fathers Gift

426n

Reflection Guide:

As we celebrate fathers day, let’s reflect on the greatest gift your father gave you.

My loving father taught me that no one is perfect and that I can be happy if I accept myself for who I am, improve areas that can be improved and give of my best to the world, starting from my own little world, my family, my team, my community and so on.

I love and respect my dad; Stephen Richard Francis De Silva, who left us 16 years ago to enjoy eternal happiness.

Quotes for Reflection